It’s Okay Not to be Okay

It’s Okay Not to be Okay

It’s Okay Not to be Okay. What an amazing Korean drama. So amazing that it’s the first Korean drama I’ve watched in a long time. The drama contained a deeper message on the impact of parenting and upbringing on people’s mental health, and was supported by a great cast alongside the ever-popular theme of romance. But I’m not here to review how good the Korean drama was. I’m here to share on the message stated in the title.

We always say that we’re “good” or “okay” when someone asks, “How are you?”. It’s the default response that we spit out on autopilot more often than not, even in moments where we are in fact not okay. Amidst difficult times, we often say we are okay to avoid the possibility of appearing vulnerable, or perhaps we are uncomfortable sharing our personal troubles and revert to putting up a façade of wellness. Unfortunately, the reality is that life is full of problems, and it is difficult to be okay in a world that is filled with sin, evil, destruction and death.

Even though God had created a perfect world in Genesis 1, the reality is that it has been corrupted by the sins of humanity. Because of the imperfect world that we live in, there are bound to be negative consequences – and you know what, it is okay to not be okay! We are affected by everything that happens around us. It is only human to respond to our five senses which affect our mind, body, and emotions, as well as our conscience telling us that something in this world is not right.

The world is not right because of sin. Sin has destroyed our world and left humans to navigate through it improperly in accordance with our sinful nature. Humanity is left seeking answers, and these answers are often sought in a manner which is self-serving and not glorifying to God.

We like to make things okay. Our lives would be okay if we had full control over it because we think we know the right way to go about things and resolve issues. We rely on our own wisdom and strength. In our pride, we destroy ourselves in frustration because we realise that we are powerless and weak and cannot accept it. Even our society and culture tell us that we have to be okay with whatever comes our way or otherwise make it okay. However, the truth is we cannot continually pretend that things are okay, nor should we just accept things are okay. We are incapable and weak. Sin has destroyed us to our very core, our human nature.

Thankfully, Christ makes everything okay for us. In humble obedience, Christ came down to die for us so that a new heavenly kingdom will be established. A new eternal life with no curse of sin for people who have accepted Christ. In this new heaven and earth (Revelation 21:1), everything will be okay. In fact better than okay, it will be perfect.

Whilst it’s good to know biblical truths and promises from the Bible, we still have to live in an imperfect world as salt and light. We’ve all been brought up in different family circumstances and upbringing. We all have many personal struggles which may or may not be a fault of our own. Unfortunately, our experiences with family and friends in life have been tainted by sin. Relationships are broken and destroyed, which as a result leave people mentally and emotionally hurt, wounded and scarred. Living in a society that rebels against God and His original design is meant to be difficult.

I encourage you to find a friend you can trust, or speak to your fellowship group leader or pastor. It is good for the mind and soul to share about such things and pray together. We are to cast our anxieties on Him (1 Peter 5:7), but also to comfort each other (2 Corinthians 1:4) when sharing each others’ burdens (Galatians 6:2). There is still hope during this life on earth. Despite sin and brokenness, God uses what is not okay. He uses it to grow His people and glorify Him. He sends us His Holy Spirit (John 14:16-17), and through the Spirit, He calls out for people to turn to Him. He uses suffering to produce character and maturity through perseverance. If things were okay, would there be a need to seek God? Would anyone cry out in faith and lean on Him? So let us rely on the power of the Holy Spirit to be at peace with not being okay in this world until Christ returns.

by Jason Lee